June 2021 Newsletter
Most weekdays, I get a personalized email from “the Universe”; great little messages that are generated by the brilliant Mike Dooley, who coined the phrase “thoughts become things”. This morning’s was quite poignant:
You know those folks who push your buttons, Jan?
Here’s the deal: Once you love your life and yourself so much that you no longer care about their behavior… they disappear.
The power of self-love, Jan, is all of that and so much more.
(Remember, these messages are “personalized”, so insert your name where you see mine.)
So many people are at the edge or their tolerance with lockdowns and all of the challenges that go with it. I’m sure that there is at least one person that you encounter regularly, or have encountered during these interesting times that has pushed your buttons. Have they managed to unhinge you? Trigger you into being angry or feeling like a victim in their presence? Have you felt bullied?
One of the greatest gifts of challenging our own fears of feelings of inadequacy or powerlessness is that we learn so much about ourselves if we intend and allow it. We can gain wisdom about our own truth and what is meaningful for us, if we care enough about ourselves to explore these triggers, take the blame from the one holding the gun, and really delve into how we can best heal ourselves. That is self-love. The person triggering you offers an opportunity to choose: to engage in fear and feeling less than… or stepping toward your own authenticity and truth.
If we love ourselves enough and are clearly intending to heal by observing and feeling our fears without acting on them, there is such potential to find peace and harmony within. Choose to not let things outside of you trigger you into doubting yourself and/or your value.
Inner peace seems to me to allude to valuing oneself within. The second that I allow another to determine my worth, I am indulging my fear of unworthiness.
I do have great gratitude for the times that we are in, and am intending peace and harmony in my life, here in the present moment.
Journey to Your Wisest Self and your spiritual allies to glean information on your triggers, and how they may be trapping you into fear. Explore any people who you allow to exert power over you, and how to see this situation in a different light. Can you see this relationship from a different perspective? As always, remember, no judgements! What will you discover? I invite you to journey with this intention and see where it takes you on your path to self-mastery.
This is the obituary that I wrote to honour my dad’s life. I will miss him.
Born: July 12th, 1926
Died: October 4th, 2020
Dad has finally been reunited with his one love, Peggy (Grace Brice), after twenty-six long years without her. He will also be having a great catch up with his brothers, Neville, Geoffrey, and Leslie.
Dad was born in Barnsley, England to Frederick Schofield and Louisa Knowles, but left home early to pursue varied interests and opportunities, ultimately joining the British army and serving in the Burma Campaign of WW2. It was during his service that he began corresponding with a young nurse, who would later become his bride. He married his beloved Peggy in November of 1947. Nine years, later, Janet was born, and they began their plans to emigrate to Calgary, Canada to create a new and wonderful life. Margaret (Maggie) came along once they settled in their new country.
Eric was employed as relief night elevator operator at the Palliser Hotel but gradually worked his way to Assistant Manager, until his retirement in the early 80’s. Ted and MaryAnne were lifelong friends from the hotel, with whom he still spoke regularly.
When Janet was school aged, the family moved to DeWinton, where we were afforded great rural life with horses, cows, cats and dogs, and many other farm creatures. Once retired from the hotel, Mom and Dad moved to Calgary and were always devoted to babysitting their only granddaughter Dyan.
Both Mom and Dad joined the Chinook Artists group and made many friends there, some of whom became like family after Mom’s passing. Dad loved to paint and even when his eyesight rendered artwork impossible for him, he loved to socialize with the group.
Dad loved his family, all animals and possessed a very strong work ethic. He loved punctuality and was always professional and courteous in his service to others. His gregarious nature afforded him many lifelong friends, whom he treasured dearly. His great love for dogs would see him outside regularly walking Bella, Rudi or Cosmo around the neighbourhood of Mount Pleasant. Many neighbours knew exactly what time it was when Dad walked by with one of the dogs.
In 2011, Dad fell while out walking Cosmo and broke a hip, which required a change of living arrangements facilitated by moving into Aspen Lodge. He enjoyed living in that community and made many friends there, too. Cosmo moved in with our dear friend, Janet Bullard, and Dad knew that he was loved and cared for.
When living at Aspen was no longer possible, he moved into the Carewest Colonel Belcher, where he enjoyed a reunion with his lifelong friend, Ted.
The family would like to thank the staff at the Belcher for their compassion and kindness to Eric. We are also grateful to everyone who has supported Dad and our family over the years.
Eric leaves behind his two daughters, Janet Gale and Margaret (Maggie) Schofield and his devoted son-in-law, Mike Gale. His granddaughter Dyan Gale, and great granddaughter Edithe Grayce were treasures to him. The Schofield family in England will also feel his loss, as will surviving members of Peggy’s family.
There will be a private family celebration as per Dad’s wishes. In lieu of flowers, please donate to the SPCA or a charity of your choice.
To view and share photos, condolences and stories of Eric please visit www.choicememorial.com. Arrangements entrusted to the care of Choice Memorial Cremation & Funeral Services (403) 277-7343.
Supplemental Newsletter March 2020:
In the past 15+ years that I have been doing a monthly newsletter, I do believe this is the first time that I have written a supplementary issue. This is certainly the weirdest one that I have ever composed.
I am having such mixed feelings about the state of the globe at the moment. I have a lot of time to think about this, as we are in self isolation, after returning home from England on Tuesday. Amidst the deserted airports, wild stories from those trying to get home before airlines shut down (or go bankrupt), and fear of the unknown, I am intending to trust that all that is happening is leading us more to working together as a planet and helping each other, although “social distancing” and “self-isolating” are counterintuitive to this intention on the surface.
To manage our self-isolation and to honour and protect my dear clients I will not be able to see clients in person until the end of March and will reassess the global situation after that time. For those clients who are booked in during that timeframe, I will contact you directly to offer a distance healing or rescheduling, whichever you prefer.
On a healing note, I offer all my friends and family this suggestion: Do your inner work: drum or rattle with healing intentions, transfigure often, take time to reflect and nurture compassion. Choose love, not fear.
Explore personal and global healing with this journey: Ask your helping spirits to assist you as you journey to a sanctuary in non-ordinary reality that is healing, safe, and quiet to receive healing for yourself, cultivating with love, and insight into healing the planet and all beings. What will your spirits share with you? As always, remember, no judgements! What will you discover? I invite you to journey with this intention and see where it takes you on your path to self-mastery.
Laini Risto and I are expecting our second cd, Snow Raven, to be released very soon. Please watch here for the release date!
The cd Spirit Bear has its own webpage to make your purchase of this music easier: https://lainiristo.hearnow.com/spirit-bear